“A rape on Sunday, a murder on Monday. What’ll it be today? We know it’s coming, a when and not an if. It is relentless. It is exhausting. So I went to bed, exhausted, but shaking with rage and flooded with sadness. And, like millions of other women, I got up in the morning. Showered, dressed, and walked out into the world to do it all again.”
People don’t want to face the harsh realities. They don’t want to talk about it, they don’t want to read about it, and they certainly do not want to see it while browsing endlessly…it’s real and depressing and who has the energy? But ignoring it doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen. Talking about it & sharing the stories that aren’t clickbait worthy are important and do help.
It’s so hard to be a woman and want to be strong and stand up for yourself against men that dismiss, harass & assault you, but the fear of a physical attack & retaliation leave some of us silent, rolling our eyes, and either crying/cursing about it later. I personally feel regret for not saying something…which means that more than feeling grossed out by the creep who feels so entitled to tell me I have nice legs while ordering a coffee or I catch staring at me like I’m not a person to respect but an object of his own sexual fetishes – I feel anger and regret at myself for letting him take my voice & strength away. It’s an everyday occurrence that has become an expected routine. The amount of times my inner thoughts were “ugh just ignore it.” “This is just what it is to be a woman.” “Men.” is infuriating and disgusting. I don’t speak out so I internalize it all until later I’m crying in my bathtub because I feel disgusting, alone, & violated from daily experiences like these since I was in middle school, and perhaps even before then.
So what could enrage me more? And worse, what could leave me feeling even more alone, empty, numb, and less than? How about a president that does the same things, says the same things, looks at all women in the same way, and condones this kind of behavior from other men and men with a huge platform. How about knowing that millions of people, men and WOMEN, people with daughters, sisters, & mothers also condone this behavior.
This article is exceptionally needed and the Global Fund for Women is amazing and wonderful for anyone feeling lost and alone or wanting to help champion to end violence against women.